30 Signs Of Emotional Abuse That Will Slowly Destroy You
Here Are Some Things That Emotional Abusers Do In A Relationship. Hopefully Recognizing These Behaviours Can Help You To Take Charge Of Your Emotional Well-Being.
1. They embarrass you or mock you when you’re in the company of others.
2. They ignore your needs, wants, and desires, brush off your points of view, and overlook your beliefs.
3. Their remarks are scornful and often sarcastic in an attempt to shame you or make you feel self-pity.
4. They try and blame their abusive behaviour on you for being too “easily hurt”.
5. They infantilize you (treat you as if you were a child).
6. They resort to obscure punishments for every little thing you don’t do right.
7. You feel that you always need their consent to go anywhere or do anything.
8. They feel the need to take charge of your finances and what your money gets spent on.
9. They squash your hopes and dreams, dissaprove of your achievements and criticize you about everything.
10. They will never admit that you may be right, since their word is law and you are always the one at fault.
11. Their non-verbal attitude is condescending, you will never be looked at as an equal to them, even when they’re not saying anything.
12. They often rub your face in your imperfections, constantly making you aware of your flaws.
13. They randomly come up with false accusations that you firmly believe are not true.
14. They absolutely cannot handle criticizm since they’re usually the one dishing it out.
15. You will never hear the end of it if you are ever accused of any form of disrespect.
16. They come up with excuses to justify their behaviour, try to pin their mistakes on others and are never remorseful.
17. They incessantly push your buttons and purposely disregard anything you ask from them.
18. They try and make you believe that you are the cause of all of their problems, the reason for all of their misery.
19. Calling you names and uttering snide comments that are barely audible are some of their more frequently used abusive maneuvers.
20. They are often withdrawn or completely unavailable emotionally.
21. Sulking or the silent treatment lets you know that what they need now is some form of attention.
22. Their attitude towards you is completely apathetic, they have no sense of compassion.
23. They victimise themselves in some sort of attempt to make you believe you are the abuser.
24. They will set up abandonment scenarios in order to make you think that you need them.
25. They are completely ignorant towards your emotions.
26. They take away your individuality by making you think you are a part of them.
27. They withhold important information from you as a means of control.
28. They lack any sense of confidentiality and will frequently share your own personal details with everyone.
29. They will never agree to their behaviour as being abusive when bringing it to their attention.
30. Another way that they try and take control of you is by making vague threats and underhanded remarks.
The Road To Recovering From This Type Of Emotional Abuse First Begins With Recognition.
If any of these signs of emotional abuse appear frequently in your relationship, it’s time to be honest and straightforward with yourself. That is the only way to regain control over your own life, put and end to the abuse, and finally start to heal.
26 Things Adults Do Who Have Experienced Childhood Emotional Abuse
There’s a lot of compelling research being done lately about how the way we grew up affects our behavior as adults. Studies have linked childhood trauma, for example, to increased levels of alcoholism and depression in adults.
Adults Who Experienced Emotional Abuse As Children Have Other Ways Of Showing This In Their Adulthood.
Here Are 26 Ways You Can Tell If An Adult May Have Been Emotionally Abused As A Child:
1. They have commitment issues, probably because they had a hard time trusting anyone as a child.
2. They sometimes go into auto-pilot mode and blank out entire conversations or events. This is due to disassociation, a skill learned in childhood, and it’s often unintentional.
3. Mood swings which seem to come at random times are often the norm for them. This is often because they had to deal with this as a kid, so the only response they knew was to model the behavior.
4. They may commit acts of self-harm. This often follows from doing this in childhood.
5. They are angry underneath it all, and have outbursts of anger seemingly from nowhere.
6. They are nervous all the time. This may make them seem edgy or startle easily.
7. They don’t feel valid. No matter what they’re doing, they’re unsure if they can do it.
8. They have low self-esteem.
9. They don’t handle compliments well. They doubt their veracity.
10. They are quiet. They don’t feel comfortable using their voice after being worn down as small and wrong throughout their childhood.
11. They may have issues getting close to others, because they may not especially, in general, like people.
12. They may beat themselves up mentally and emotionally, since they were beaten emotionally for so many years.
13. Conflict gives them immense anxiety, so they often run from it instead of facing it.
14. Making eye contactis extremely difficult and speaking makes them anxious, making it even more difficult.
15. They fear others abandoning or leaving them. They have attachment issues.
16. They are often defensive, perceiving people as negative or offensive because of their previous abuse.
17. Often afraid of contact with people, they may be introverted and try to distance themselves as much as possible.
18. They may be sensitive to loud noises, as they were raised in an environment of raised voices and yelling.
19. Many victims of emotional abuse overdo it because they want to please everyone. They become perfectionistic, tidy, clean and organized.
20. Often they will have trouble making decisions, after hearing throughout childhood that they were not good enough.
21. They are tough, but very sensitive. Because of experiencing a plethora of emotions at a young age, you have considerable emotional sensitivity.
22. The world of emotional abuse leaves them second-guessing everything.
23. They constantly say that they’re sorry.
24. They will often ask questions to which they already know the answer, due to self-doubt.
25. They have addiction issues.
26. They are actually remarkably humble. They sincerely appreciate the good things in their life. They are a strong, grateful survivor of their past.